god’s plan

written on my heart

I have a college degree and I can’t wait to be a wife + mother.

There, I said it.

I haven’t ever wanted to be anything else. God’s written it upon my heart since I was a little girl. Most of the people in my life already know this and have no issue with it. Not that they’re really allowed to have an issue with it, anyway. But for some reason, the rest of the world seems to be completely shocked when I share my career goals with them.

Very recently, as in yesterday recently, in his general audience address, Pope Francis said, “to be a mother is a great treasure. Mothers, in their unconditional and sacrificial love for their children, are the antidote to individualism; they are the greatest enemies against war.”  I think Pope Francis and I have a very similar thought process when it comes to motherhood, and actually everything else, but specifically motherhood. He went on to say that being a mother is a gift and that through their sacrificing, mothers help society overcome self-centered tendencies. I want nothing more than to experience the gift of motherhood.

As a college student, I had professors and employers tell me to “pick something else” when discussing future jobs. On the first day of a new course, most of the class period was spent having each student share a little about him/herself. We would share the basics like: name, year in school, major, ideal career, and something interesting about yourself. As you can imagine, my ideal career was always wife + mother. And as if that didn’t get enough funny looks, I would always follow it up with, “and something interesting about me is that I was at least 5 kids!” Most of the time the professor would laugh uncomfortably and ask what I wanted as a job, as if I didn’t understand the question. I made sure to restate exactly what I said, “I want to be a wife + mother and raise a family.” After it was clear that I wasn’t confused by the question, the professor would smile and move on to the next student. On one specific assignment, I was asked to find ways to apply things I had learned in my management class to my career of choice. I obviously wrote all about how to effectively use these techniques to manage a home & family and when I received the assignment back, the professors had left a note (along with the A) that read, “Aim higher, young lady!” Had I written that I wanted to be a nurse, would he have told me to aim to be a doctor? Or if I wanted to be a teacher, would he have told me to aim to be the principal? Who was he to tell me that my career path wasn’t high enough?

I’m pretty sure that if we went around the world and asked every mom with a college degree if she’s ever used it while raising her children, the answer would be a yes. Every. Single. Time. And that’s not saying you need a degree to be a wife + mother, but why can’t I apply what I’ve learned in college to raising a family? For a culture that is all about women’s rights and women having it all, we sure are quick to knock a woman wanting her “all” to be a family. I don’t think that every woman is called to motherhood, or that we should shame those who choose a career over family, but I just don’t understand why so many people are still so shocked at the idea of motherhood as a desire and choice. For a society full of pro-choicers, you think they’d accept that my choice is LIFE + family.

I’m not a naive tween waiting around for my prince charming to show up at any moment. I’m not counting down the literal minutes until I get married and start having babies. However, I AM looking forward to the day when God brings the man I will marry into my life. And I AM hoping & praying He blesses that marriage with lots of children. I am trusting in His plan to fulfill the desires He has placed on my heart.

If you want to read a more eloquently written post on the subject of women actually wanting to be mothers and stay-at-home-moms at that, check out Katrina of Cedars and Tiny Flowers. She wrote a beautiful post all about it here.

xx, Melanie Elizabeth

usual tuesday

If I was just a little more creative I would have come up with an awesome title for this post, but I’m not. So, we’ll just have to deal with that. This post is simply a compilation of different things I’ve been thinking about and feeling recently! And because of the lack of creativity on my part, I’m using a similar format to one of Geena’s recent posts! Sorry, G, but they do say imitation is sincerest form of flattery :)

Thought 1:

I find myself saying things like that often- “If I was just a little more prayerful…”, “If I was a lot less impulsive…”, “If I could just be more helpful…” But why can’t I just be OK with how I am at this moment? God accepts me just as I am; all the little flaws I find everyday, He put them there, He has planned out every second of my life. I take comfort in the fact that God has my life in His hands. As my dear friend suffers through a break-up, I have been constantly reminding her of God’s plan for her life. That He, obviously, is preparing her heart for a greater love. I feel somewhat helpless because there is really nothing I can do to make this better; this is a healing process that she has to deal with on her own- all she can do is take everything to prayer. Christ is the ONLY one who can make her heart whole again! If you’re looking for a reminder of God’s plan, check out Jeremiah 29: 11-13,  “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.” 

Thought 2:

I am beyond excited for this Saturday! In the morning, Liz and I are heading to The Brow Bar downtown to get our eyebrows done then we are going to Madewell on Rush to look at a potential Bridesmaid Dress for G’s wedding! After our city adventure, we are heading back to the suburbs for an appointment at the salon for Liz- maybe I’ll find something I need done while we are there ;) I love days of pampering! In the evening, the fabulous Brittany from The Lily Field is coming over to talk to a few of my friends & I about the basics and benefits of Natural Family Planning (NFP)!

Thought 3:

Today, while on the phone with Geena, we were talking about post-wedding plans: where she & Brad were going to live, jobs, ect… and I said something like, “Oh! It’s going to be so nice just to spend time with your husband!”. It was so cool to say that out loud. We’ve been talking about our “husbands” forever and now, she’s found hers! While I’m still asking myself the question: who will I marry, G’s preparing to walk down the aisle and enter into the sacrament of marriage; Bradley was the answer to her question! I can’t wait to spend the weekend with her at the end of the month!

Thought 4:

I spent my Fat Tuesday how I spend all my Tuesdays… eating ;) just kidding, kinda! Today, I took the two year old I nanny for, Alexander, to Costco. We grabbed a few things for his momma and then treated ourselves to lunch. I don’t care what anyone says, Costso rocks! Everything about it is awesome, from all the cool products to their yummy samples! After our Costo trip, we headed home to get the other kids from school. I was feeling generous, or craving ice cream, but I’d like to go with the first option, so I took the kids to Plush Horse, our favorite little ice cream place in Palos! It was a fun day of giving into our glutenous whims.

I’ve been spending the past few days thinking about what I want to give up for Lent. In the past, I’ve used Lent as my “Catholic Girl Diet”- giving up sweets or snacks to get skinny rather than as a sacrifice to unite myself to Christ on the Cross. This year, I want to use Lent to grow in my relationship with Christ. So if anyone has ideas, feel free to send them my way!

Though 5:

I want to thank my incredibly talented friend, Melissa, from Summaria Design, for designing my new logo for the blog! She was so easy to work with and understood my vision for the logo from the get-go! I keep thinking about what I can use her for next! Check out her website if you’re looking for an awesome Graphic Designer! I’m so lucky to call her my friend!


Happy Mardi Gras! xo